If you like a girl, you have to make the effort to get her attention. Otherwise, she might never know that you are interested. Below are some useful tips on how to get a girl to like you.
You probably want a certain girl to like you because you like her. But why do you like her? There might be many possible reasons for you to like a girl.
Maybe you think she is beautiful or maybe you have the same interests. It is possible that you enjoy talking to her and maybe you feel like you can tell her anything. Maybe you feel a special connection with her.
HOW TO GET A GIRL TO LIKE YOU
GET HER ATTENTION
The most charming, best looking guy in the world does not have a chance with a girl if she does not even know that he exists. At the very least, this girl should know your name and what you look like.
There are many ways to introduce yourself to a girl. The easiest thing is to find a common topic to talk about. If you know each other from work or school, then it will be really easy to start a conversation.
On the other hand, if you happen to notice that this girl rides the same bus as you on the way to work, then you can mention that you run into each other a lot. Casually introduce yourself but do not be too aggressive, especially if she does not know you yet.
The hardest situation is when you see a girl that you will most likely never see again. But if you feel drawn to her, you might as well try to introduce yourself. Try to strike up some light and friendly conversation and be polite.
Give her your name and ask her for her name and number. At the same time, do not pressure her to do so. She should only give you her information if she is interested in continuing the conversation further.
DO NOT COME ON TOO STRONG
When flirting with a girl, you do not want to come on too strong to the point of making her feel trapped and suffocated. While it is flattering for you to pay attention to her, you should also have your own life with your own friends and interests. If you just dedicate all of your attention and free time to winning her over, she will most likely be creeped out.
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
When taking care of yourself, you have to cover the physical, mental, and emotional bases. The first thing a girl will notice is how you look. Do you brush your hair and wash your face or do you look like you just rolled out of bed every morning? Do you brush your teeth and take care of your body? Do you dress sloppily or do you try a little bit when you put an outfit together? These are things that will help a girl form a first impression of you.
Looking good and taking care of your image can also help boost your confidence and self-esteem. This will give you the courage you need to make an effort with this girl. If you know you look good, then you will be more likely to put yourself out there. But if you don’t even try, you will probably be less motivated to try to win this girl over.
Before you try to get a girl to like you, you also will want to make sure that you are in a good place mentally and emotionally. If you are not, then you might want to take care of that first by addresses your issues and even seeing a professional if necessary. When you try to get a girl to like you, try to be the best version of yourself that you can be.
MAKE HER FEEL COMFORTABLE
In order to get a girl to like you, you have to make her feel comfortable with you. First and foremost, that consists of you being nice to her. Treat her kindly and be thoughtful and polite. Listen to her and make her feel like she can talk to you. If she can trust you, then she is comfortable with you.
GET HER FRIENDS TO LIKE YOU
One way to a girl’s heart is to earn the approval of her friends. Even if a girl might like you, she will often care about what her friends have to say about you. So be nice and friendly to her friends and don’t try to drive a wedge between her and her friends.
Even if you want to spend a lot of time with your crush, do not encourage her to constantly ditch her friends so she can spend time with you. You want to be on her friends’ good side. If you make small gestures of kindness towards them, they will remember and appreciate it.
Make the effort to get to know her friends. Little acts of kindness can go a long way and if they love you, then your crush might feel even better about you and the idea of a relationship.
Let her friends see why you’re such a catch. What makes you such a great guy for this girl? At the same time do not be a show-off and do not brag to them. They will not be impressed if you try too hard, but at the same time you should make an effort with them as they are people who are very close to the girl that you like.
MAKE CONTACT
To get a girl to like you, you have to make it clear that you are interested in her. You can do this by sending her signals that you are interested. First of all, remember to make eye contact with her. Establishing eye contact indicates that you are interested in what she has to say.
If you avoid making eye contact, then it will be hard to make that special connection with her. As the old saying goes, “the eyes are the window to the soul.”
There are other physical ways to show your interest in a girl. Some examples include lightly brushing your hand against hers or brushing her hair out of her face. Hold open the door or car door for her or help her carry things if she has too much in her hands.
COMMUNICATE WITH HER
These days, there are so many ways to communicate with a girl in order to get her to notice you. If you are at the same school, you can pass her a note or leave a message in her locker.
If you are have her phone number, you can text her or message her online. If you are really shy and nervous around her, you can gain some confidence by talking to her more through text messages. You can even be a little flirty.
At the same time, if you are flirty through text messages, do not completely shut down when you see her in person. Doing so will send mixed messages to her and she will think that you are not genuinely serious or interested in her.
STAND OUT FROM THE CROWD
If you like a girl and want her to like you as well, consider this question. What makes you special from all of the other guys out there? Think about what sets you apart and which special qualities are unique to you. What are you good at and what are your interests? Use those unique qualities to your advantage.
The philosophy of standing out from the crowd can also apply to how you treat this girl. Don’t forget to make her feel important and special. Be respectful of her and treat her like the special person that she is. Doing that will also set you apart from the others.
LET HER CHASE YOU A LITTLE BIT
There is nothing wrong with letting a girl know that you like her. In fact, it is encouraged. At the same time, you might want to avoid constantly going after her.
If you chase your crush around constantly, you might come off as obsessive and she will either tire of you or she will start to feel creeped out. Either way, she will think that you do not have a life outside of her.
Instead, let her see that while you are interested in her, she will have to make some of an effort to. Make romantic gestures towards her, give her compliments, and flirt with her, but allow her to also return the favor.
While it is good to be there for the girl that you like, do not make yourself too available as she will think that you are too obsessed with her. At the same time, use your common sense. If your crush is going through a really hard time, then you should try to be there for her.
On the other hand, do not be around her too much that she might grow tired of you.
REMEMBER THE LITTLE THINGS
When you want a girl to like you, you will want to remember certain things about her. Knowing her birthday is a basic thing that you can remember. If you remember to greet her on her birthday, that will put a smile on her face.
There are other little details you can remember like her favorite color, what she likes to eat, and so on. If you like this girl, then her opinion should already matter to you. Just make sure that she knows that you care what she thinks.
When she notices that you remember the little things, she will know that you are a special person in your life who will stick around. She will know that she can count on you to be there for her.
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BE THOUGHTFUL
This sort of ties into remembering the little things. A girl is more likely to like you if you are nicer to her. If she is going through a hard time, be there to listen to her and ask her how you can help her get through it.
SHOW, DON’T TELL
Everyone has their good qualities that set them apart from others. While you want this girl to like you and feel drawn to you, avoid bragging about yourself as that will turn her off. Most girls are not attracted to guys who are cocky.
Instead, she your confidence through your actions. Do not constantly praise yourself in front of her. Not only will this be seen as annoying, but it might make her wonder if you are bragging because you actually do not possess these qualities.
If there is something that you do have to brag about, show it through your actions. Do not talk about them constantly as an attempt to wow the girl you like. For example, do not tell her that a lot of girls like you. Instead, show her what makes you so likable.
ASK HER QUESTIONS
If there is a girl that you like, ask her questions about herself. That is the best way to get to know her. If the chemistry is right, she will love that you want to know more about her. And if you are a good listener, then she will appreciate that as well. She might even want to know more about you in turn and she might ask you some questions about yourself.
There are so many questions that you can ask the girl you like. You can ask her how her day is going or how her weekend was. You can ask her how work is going or you can follow up on a topic that was mentioned in a previous conversation.
You can also ask her more personal questions. What does she want to be doing in 5 or 10 years from now? Where would she like to end up? If she does not seem to be in the best mood you can also ask her if she is okay or if she needs someone to talk to. These are just a few questions that you can ask her.
BE YOURSELF
While you should put on your best show for the girl that you like, you also do not want to be a fake. There is nothing wrong with trying to impress her, but try to do it in a way that is genuine and true to yourself. While it is good to listen to her and be interested in what she has to say, you should let her know who you are too.
If things are meant to be with this girl, then she will like you for who you are. Don’t be afraid to be yourself. At the same time, avoid being offensive or talking about sensitive topics with this girl, especially if you are still just getting to know her.
The biggest part of being yourself is being confident in who you are. Do not talk badly about yourself. If you say that you think you are stupid or something like that, it will be a turn-off. In order for your crush to like you, you must like yourself and be comfortable with who you are.
RELAX
There are many reasons why you might have a hard time relaxing around the girl you like. The biggest one is that she might make you nervous in a good way. You might not know what to say or you might be afraid of saying the wrong thing. You might be terrified of scaring her off or turning her off to you.
If you are too tense and uptight around your crush, she might misinterpret that and think that you are uncomfortable around her. She might even think that you do not like her.
Try not to take yourself too seriously, especially where your crush is concerned. Being able to relax and let your guard will make it possible for your crush to see the real you. If you keep a wall up between yourself and the girl you like, then it will be harder for her to get to know you.
When you relax, it will be easier for your crush to enjoy spending time with you. And if the chemistry is there, then you will be able to make that special connection when both of you are there together in a relaxed state feeling comfortable and completely at ease with one another.
It is completely normal if the girl that you like makes you nervous. You might not even realize that you get nervous around her. Some signs of this include you stuttering or struggling to find the right words around her. You might fidget or put off talking to her because you think that you might say the wrong thing.
Letting yourself get too nervous around the girl you like will not help you. Remember that she is just another person, even if you like her. Before you talk to her, take a deep breath. Remind yourself that you can do this. If she does not express interest in you, allow yourself to be okay with that. When you are interested in a girl, you have to act on it and be okay with getting rejected sometimes.
If you take yourself too seriously, you might end up not accomplishing much. Allow yourself to relax and have a sense of humor when you are around this girl. She will feed off of your energy whether it is positive or negative, so you are better off emitting positive energy.
DON’T BE THE NICE GUY
Do not mistake this advice as telling you to be mean and rude to the girl you like. This piece advice simply means that you should not do nice things for your crush and just wait in the wings, hoping that she’ll one day confess her love to you.
Realistically, you might have to make the first move. If you wait too long to express your feelings, you might always wonder what could have been. If you are already friends with this girl, do not be too assertive but let your feelings be known. That way, she can decide if she is interested in pursuing a relationship with you or not.
If you instead decide to be the “nice guy” that waits for the girl to come to you, there is a possibility that nothing will ever happen. And besides, it is good to be honest about your feelings anyway.
TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL
The only way that a girl can ever know how you feel is if you tell her. If you are interested in a girl, let her know. Don’t wait too long to the point where you become just really good friends. At the same time, you might not want to jump in and have your first conversation consist of you asking her on a date. That should ideally only be an option if you think you might not get a chance to ever see this girl again.
When you do tell this girl that you have feelings for her be direct and do not beat around the bush. She will either be interested or not interested, so do not keep her guessing. It can be hard to admit that you have feelings for her and see her as more than a friend, but it is better to know if you have a chance than to never know at all.
ASK HER HOW SHE FEELS
Not every person is the same. You won’t know for sure how this girl feels about you until you lay your feelings out there and ask her how she feels about you. You should not necessarily expect an immediate answer. Being told that someone is romantically interested in you is a lot of information to take in and she might need some time to assess her feelings so she can give you a response.
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