It is exciting, sexy, and interesting, but the female orgasm is also complicated and contentious. Sex researchers brought this topic into the spotlight 60 years ago but we are still debating how and why it happens. “Female orgasm is shrouded in many mysteries and misconceptions and as a result it can cause discordant expectations among partners,” says Susan Kellogg-Spadt, director of female sexual medicine at the Academic Urology Center for Pelvic Medicine and medical reviewer for HealthyWomen.org. While being focused on orgasm as the Holy Grail of sex is a bad idea, knowing what an orgasm is, how different women experience it, and how it’s most often produced can not only increase the chances of reaching one, it can make a relationship stronger overall.
(1) Why Women Fake It
In case you haven’t heard, some women fake orgasms. (About 53 to 67 percent according to various research.) A survey of about 400 women found that there are many reasons for the practice, such as feeling insecure about possible sexual dysfunction, increasing arousal, and simply wanting to be done with that particular bedroom romp.
(2) Not All Orgasms Are Earth-Shattering
Strictly defined, an orgasm is a physical reflex where the muscles that were tightened during sex relax, bringing the body back to its pre-arousal state. Some women experience warmth, bodily vibrations, and altered consciousness — hence the euphemism “la petite mort” or “little death” — but some women won’t even notice their orgasms.
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(3) About 10 Percent of Women Have Trouble Reaching Orgasm
Regular difficulty reaching orgasm is called anorgasmia. It can happen for lots of different reasons — physical, psychological, and situational. Some women experience anorgasmia even though they’ve been able to achieve orgasm previously.
(4) Men Aren’t the Only Ones who Ejaculate
Ejaculation in both men and women is a separate bodily function than orgasm. While the two often occur together in men, it is estimated that anywhere from 10 to 50 percent of women also ejaculate fluid during orgasm.
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(5) Orgasms Used to be a “Cure” for Hysteria
For centuries, hysteria was a catch-all term for lady problems like fainting, irritability, and nervousness. Medical professionals sometimes used orgasm to treat hysteria because it was thought to release toxic female fluids.
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